I used to prescribe my teenage self regular duvet days, once a month.
A day to stay in bed, read books, eat ice cream and chocolate and just be me.
With no pressure from the outside world to do anything else.
No homework, no housework, nothing else other than what pleased me.
Then life began to get in the way, all the responsibilities that adulthood brings; the work stress, the children, whether I’ve paid the bills, is there food in the house? The mum guilt of whether I have cuddled my babies enough that day, do they feel loved, are they happy?
The multitude of items on my to-do list increasing day by day. There appears to be no time for those duvet days that made me feel so refreshed and relaxed.
Now, after many years out of practise I have lost the art of the duvet day. I cannot sit still. I can possibly manage a duvet hour but even then there are ten thousand things running through my brain that I just MUST get done. I put the kids to bed and then do the housework, or study, or check my work emails, or make a few orders. I actually find it impossible to sit and watch a film from start to finish.
So, I ask you, how do we as busy adults learn to switch back off again?
That is something I plan to rediscover and I hope you will come along with me for the journey. Follow my journey on Instagram @aboxof_happiness
We all have self-care thrown in our faces every where we look these days but it really is so important to take that time for yourself to recharge. Are you putting the most stress on yourself? Does the kitchen sink being empty of dishes really make a difference to your life? Probably not.
Today I prescribe a duvet day. Or tomorrow, or the next day but schedule it in. Work out a time when you can just be at home on your own, not doing the dishes, or scrubbing the floor. But just spending time with you before you burn out.
This morning, I had a meeting scheduled which was cancelled for the second time this week. At first I was a little put out that my entire days plans would alter (for a control freak this is hard to handle!), but then I figured this was a serendipitous moment that would allow me to start the day with a whole new slate. I could make a dent in that giant to do list, but instead I made a big pot of coffee and sat in my giant bay window which was awash with sunshine. The only sounds were the seagulls soaring high above the sea. That quiet, a mug of coffee that I would get to finish before it got cold (I lie, it did get cold, mainly because it was a mug made for giants!), the vase of roses on the windowsill. I felt a huge sense of gratitude, that life, although imperfect was pretty perfect in that moment. And this is the switching off that I need, that thing they called mindfulness. We all need to slow down and appreciate these little things instead of always striving for perfection.
So, take that duvet day, take a moment for mindfulness and be grateful for everything that IS perfect right now, in this moment. Stop rushing from task to task on that list, it will still be there in a few hours and you will have the calmed mind that will be able to tackle each thing just a little more effectively.