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New Start September

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September sees the beginning of many things, the beginning of autumnal weather, the beginning of a new school year – in our house that is starting Year 2 for the 6-year-old, starting pre-school for the 3-year-old and starting my third and final year of my business and management degree at a brand-new university, with brand new people! New beginnings and big changes like this can be daunting and a little frightening for some but taking on new challenges, learning something new and making new friends opens our minds up to new and wonderful things as well as boosting self-confidence as you realise how adaptable you really are. Nothing amazing happens if everything always stays the same, does it?

The dark nights closing in on us and the weather turning a little more chill makes September a great time for setting some new goals and assessing where you’re at with the goals you set at the start of the year. How close are you to achieving them? Is there anything you can do now to make sure you achieve those goals before the end of the year?
Your goals can be anything that makes YOU happy, as big or small as you like. They can be short term e.g. get up a little earlier tomorrow morning or long term e.g. Run the London marathon in 2020. The important thing to bear in mind is not just the goal but how and when you will achieve it. So if you were to plan to run the London marathon in 2020 you would think about what you need to do to actually achieve that, you would most probably train regularly, improving your fitness and health in the time leading up to it.

Doing that one thing for you is a great way to practise some self-care and improve your general wellbeing.
I am somebody who regularly sets goals and reflects on how far I have got to achieving them. And today I set some new ones. I turn the big 3-0 in January and would love to be fit and healthy and rock an amazing dress to celebrate.

Goal ONE – Be fabulous at 30.
As I am starting my third year of uni I will graduate next year and with what I have achieved in my studies so far am on track to graduate with a first. I think about this often and so that’s another goal.
Goal TWO – Graduate with a first.
I have been trying to pass my driving test for 2 years now, I now have to start again with my theory test as I have sadly failed a few times and left it so long my theory expired! I don’t want to beat me, I need to pass my driving test.
Goal THREE – Pass driving test!
Now that I have decided my goals I need to decide what small steps I need to take to achieve them. Little steps on a regular basis will make it easier to achieve.

Why not share your goals for the next few months, next year or even your 5 year plan and the little steps you need to take to get there? Grab a notebook and make it your goal diary, set those goals, reflect on your progress and smash them!

Aim for Progress NOT Perfection!

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Just a quick pep talk for you on a sunny but windy Tuesday afternoon about something I have come to realise over the last few years. And that is that we don’t need to aim to be perfect at everything, progress is what we should be celebrating!
I have always had goals I wanted to achieve and also an idea about the kind of person I wanted to be. The image I wanted to convey to others. I wanted to be seen to be a good mum, I wanted to be slim, healthy, fit. I wanted a nice, clean, perfect home. I wanted the great job, nice stuff, I wanted to get up early every day and be as productive as I could be. I wanted my own business, I wanted to go to college and finish my degree. I wanted lots of friends and a fantastic social life. I wanted happy, healthy, clean children who were angelic. I wanted the perfect marriage, a nice car, my own home.

Now just take a look at that list. Its pretty long isn’t it? That list is exhausting – physically and mentally. Because, realistically all of those things on that list take time and energy. One thing I found was that I couldn’t possibly have every single thing on that list to a ‘perfect’ standard. But you know what? That’s OK!!

I stopped putting this pressure on myself to create this perfect image. Because that is not what’s important in life. The most important thing in life is just happiness! And who can be happy when every day they are feeling like they have failed because they haven’t managed to achieve their impossible ideologies of perfection?

Once I had realised this I completely scaled back all of those things I was trying to achieve, I have prioritised which things are truly and honestly important to me. I say to ME because to other people they would be completely different. The only things that matter to me are being happy, having a happy family and a happy home and it isn’t the things inside that home that are going to make me happy. Its the people inside it, their happiness as well as my own. The only person that can control my happiness is me. So less pressure to always be perfect because the most important thing is that we try. I may not get all the household jobs done every day, but that’s OK. I may not feel like getting up early on a morning, but that’s OK. I may feed the kids pizza on a regular basis, but hey, that’s OK!!

Absolutely go out there and reach for the moon but don’t feel so bad if it doesn’t work out, just keep on aiming for progress, a little bit at a time and don’t put so much pressure on yourself!