Just a quick pep talk for you on a sunny but windy Tuesday afternoon about something I have come to realise over the last few years. And that is that we don’t need to aim to be perfect at everything, progress is what we should be celebrating!
I have always had goals I wanted to achieve and also an idea about the kind of person I wanted to be. The image I wanted to convey to others. I wanted to be seen to be a good mum, I wanted to be slim, healthy, fit. I wanted a nice, clean, perfect home. I wanted the great job, nice stuff, I wanted to get up early every day and be as productive as I could be. I wanted my own business, I wanted to go to college and finish my degree. I wanted lots of friends and a fantastic social life. I wanted happy, healthy, clean children who were angelic. I wanted the perfect marriage, a nice car, my own home.
Now just take a look at that list. Its pretty long isn’t it? That list is exhausting – physically and mentally. Because, realistically all of those things on that list take time and energy. One thing I found was that I couldn’t possibly have every single thing on that list to a ‘perfect’ standard. But you know what? That’s OK!!
I stopped putting this pressure on myself to create this perfect image. Because that is not what’s important in life. The most important thing in life is just happiness! And who can be happy when every day they are feeling like they have failed because they haven’t managed to achieve their impossible ideologies of perfection?
Once I had realised this I completely scaled back all of those things I was trying to achieve, I have prioritised which things are truly and honestly important to me. I say to ME because to other people they would be completely different. The only things that matter to me are being happy, having a happy family and a happy home and it isn’t the things inside that home that are going to make me happy. Its the people inside it, their happiness as well as my own. The only person that can control my happiness is me. So less pressure to always be perfect because the most important thing is that we try. I may not get all the household jobs done every day, but that’s OK. I may not feel like getting up early on a morning, but that’s OK. I may feed the kids pizza on a regular basis, but hey, that’s OK!!
Absolutely go out there and reach for the moon but don’t feel so bad if it doesn’t work out, just keep on aiming for progress, a little bit at a time and don’t put so much pressure on yourself!